I'm just writing down a few things that are in my head right now.  I think I'd like to explore them a little more later, but for now I don't want to forget them.

- No relationship has to be equal, in any way.  Balance of power need not be equal, rules and privileges need not be equal, actions and opportunities need not be equal.  All that is necessary is that all partners' needs are being met as fully as possible.

- Being polyamorous does not mean that your boyfriend wants you less.  It means that he has the opportunity, at any time, to see what he's "missing."  He is able at any moment to walk away, and he chooses not to.  He is not required to be with you.  He is not obligated to be with you.  He has free rein to an entire world of other options and he is choosing to be with you.